There are those who are more decisive in general (and surely make more mistakes) and those more indecisive (who surely claim less control). The more festive ones among us have made their New Year's resolutions by today, the first day of a new year. That is, if they're going to participate in this yearly tradition of determination.
About those New Year's promises & resolutions
Have you noticed a trend this year, to commit to make
no resolution except in a promise to mind a stronger daily resolve throughout the year? Okay, that's a veiled resolution! While they say they have no resolution in them . . . no desire to add yet another item to overcrowded memory lists . . . the fact remains that there is indeed resolve in this
decision to make
no New Year's resolution. In fact, there is more decisiveness in the promise than in the resolution.
Avoid Leaning on Semantics & Gain Confidence in the Inclination of Your Decisions
We could resolve to be more confident in our decisions, which would be good! Yet, if we
promise instead, then we put a higher price (a price we wouldn't want to pay) on any eventual neglect. This could play out in a couple of ways:
- we may be more apt to follow through with our promise (success!), or
- more likely to perceive 'failure' that could occur when unforeseen circumstances prevent us from meeting our promise (possibly injurious to the psyche)
Maybe this is why we make New Year's
resolutions and not promises. Living organisms are known to develop protections against excessive self-damage. It's reasonable that we would use semantics in a dance to make a big, annual promise to ourselves while at the same time relieving ourselves of the effects of any fall-through (being that a resolution isn't as strong as a promise).
But this strategy of semantics- while protective- doesn't necessarily help us to be more
decisive. Instead, it seems to play into some pretty heavy human avoidance traits which, if better understood, could help us train ourselves to successfully meet higher demands through more chances taken . . . like being more decisive.
How to Handle Dueling Semantics
Rather than settling on semantics for relief of obligations (which could be a subconscious affect of biology and adaptation and not necessarily overt avoidance) we could instead
strive to be more direct with ourselves in order to maintain the determination needed for greater decisiveness. Doing so would more likely
challenge us to
exceed our expectations. Alternatively, we might intimidate ourselves into failure with inappropriate perceptions about the added responsibilities of strong decisions!
According to Dr. Bill Knaus, licensed clinical psychologist and former psychology professor, people tend to be either
threatened or
challenged when facing decision-making opportunities.
1 Understanding the difference between feeling threatened and feeling challenged is a little more obvious, yet there is a semantic element to this understanding which-- if not well understood-- prevents familiarizing oneself with the psychological ramifications of opportunities manifesting as "threats".
Greater Awareness Improves Certainty & Results
Thankfully, we live in an information society. It's more likely than ever, for a greater number of people, to maintain the knowledge needed to make decisions that will help us excel in our lives. Awareness is the beginning of any progress. Here are three ways--
three things you can do today-- to improve your awareness and decision-making abilities.
- Consider the complexities of semantics. (Check!)
- Study vocabulary (especially if you're a graduated adult) to avoid being an unconscious victim of your own misunderstanding.
- Learn proactive coping strategies for overcoming uncertainty, courtesy of Dr. Bill Knaus
Gaining a greater understanding of semantics is important. It is the
beyond-basic, enhanced communication that relays the information with
which people are least comfortable. When we want to be assured of
greater understanding among our peers and groups,
well-used language semantics are key to exchanging the most clarified
messaging.
Work on these things regularly. As each year passes and those around you make their resolutions and
their promises, take some confidence in your realization of the
decision makers around you, in your earned linguistic understanding and psychological awareness gained through applied, decisive and self-supporting actions.
Happy New Year!
1 Bill Knaus, Ed.D. Uncertainty, Anxiety, Indecision and Procrastination. Psychology Today. August 2013. Retreived January 2017↩